I did a short course on telling your story at Second City. My notes are a little sparse as I was concentrating on making my story better, but the notes I did take are quite useful and are below.
Feedback can be a wonderfully sharp knife that, like the surgeon’s scalpel, can cut away the mistakes and imperfections and leave that which remains stronger and better, with space to grow, with the surgeon receiving thanks and flowers. However, all too often he who believes himself a surgeon acts more like a vicious butcher, roughly hacking away and carving chunks out of healthy flesh, causing pain and anger and sometimes the type of knife fight that puts people off giving feedback in the first place.
I say, don’t let that put you off giving feedback, let it encourage you to become the surgeon. And, with the help of certain tools, you can.